Most people ask for general advice, “What should I do?”
I do not tell them what to do, I say “What do you think you should do?”
It is hard for me to tell them what to do because they have not told me enough information.
I let them make their own decisions, and I dig a little deeper, and I ask:
When someone asks me for advice, it means that he or she is stuck, and they are asking me to help them get unstuck. If I dispense my advice without knowing the background information, the context of the issue, people involved, place of the issue, and the timeframe, I won’t be helping them, I would be causing them more problems down the road.
They are asking me to help them move forward, I only can do that if I ask them questions, and not give them advice without proper due diligence.
I need to help them reframe the issue considering other people worldviews and feeling.
So, next time someone asks, “What should I do?”, your answer should not be an answer but a question.
Be curious and ask better questions. Be willing to listen without judgment, and when you think you heard enough ask a better question.
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